A Natural, Easy and Spontaneous Love After 42
How to Speak Quietly With Power And
be heard
Reverse the downward spiral. Learn what it takes to experience immediate success in my introductory course,
“How to Charge Neutral. ” In 48 Hours you will:
- Feel relief from the tension and upset
- Use Charging Neutral to speak with power, and be heard
- Defuse the reactivity and disconnect of your partner
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Dr. Bob Huizenga
3 Decades of Experience,
Wisdom, Helping People
No More…
- Guessing
- Game playing
- Doormat
- Dark places
- Drama
- Waffling
- Raging lunatic
- Fear
This Method
Really Works
It’s called “Charging Neutral.”
It’s a crazy combination of passive and active behaviors that powerfully and immediately upset the “rules of the relationship.”
i’ve discovered in many year of experience that 85% of spouses raise their eyebrows and mutter under their breath “What is this?!”
Others Say
Well I have been using charging neutral since I got your book. And all I can say WOW just WOW!!!! My fiance has been all but crawling on his knees to be back with me. More updates will follow soon
It is so hard to stay neutral but it does help. When I used Charging Neutral and didn’t react he had to face reality about the affair and the real reasons for it.
My partner seems to be concerned about my welfare & asking if I’m ok.
Poise
I will never forget how empowering Charging Neutral made me feel. When I told my husband he need not move out and find an apt but instead I would be leaving him and the house as soon as I could. I also wished him good luck and that he should go a head and be with her, have her children and be happy. I was calm and collected. At that moment in time I felt “invincible.” I still smile when I think back at that moment when I found my power, without any crying or raising my voice. The words just flew out of my mouth in a very peaceful way. It made me feel strong. I’ll never forget that feeling.
After receiving a message from another woman my husband has contact with I had to face him . I found charging neutral after this for 2 days received a better result in discussing what was going on.
A very useful tool and something that can be used all the time. The more you use it the less likely you’ll be to become heated in an argument and I believe the less likely you’ll be to ever have one.
I was less intimidated by how I thought my husband might react.
Calm. In control of what I think, feel and say.
Charging neutral has helped me get my voice back in a difficult situation.
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Warning
Charging Neutral is a tool, a strategy intentionally employed to experience immediate success. It is not a miracle maker.
Your spouse may not be influenced, for a variety of reasons. I found this true in 15% of cases. The value of Charging Neutral in that situation is to give you a better “read” of your relationship.
The results – many extraordinary and unexpected – are temporary. The old themes, patterns, negative thoughts and feelings will remerge, especially when the tension and stress die down.
Here’s what will happen with
Charging Neutral:
. You will be able to point out something big, without making a big deal out of it. You make your point! And, it is heard! You will learn how to confront and feel more and more comfortable (well…maybe that is a stretch, at least at first) with this skill.
You will be in control of you. This will feel great.
This skill gives you personal power. People are really attracted to someone who is able to charge neutral. (Can you think of someone who does this well?)
You defuse the reactivity of your spouse. You change the rules of communication. Your spouse will probably be confused, internally impressed and not be quite sure what to do with you.
You break the destructive pattern of communication that hits the brick wall and only results in misery.
Charging Neutral Is:
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Charging neutral is clean communication that speaks the truth without accusations, defensiveness or explanations that typically mire communication. -
Charging neutral is very subtle but very powerful. -
Charging neutral is about stating the truth directly, without anything added. No hidden agendas. -
Charging neutral is not monotone or about being boring. The truth is not boring.
Get Access to Charging Neutral Lessons for only $19.95. (Normally, $97)
The “Basics of Charging Neutral…” offers a counterintuitive worksheet that points to the core of the pain, hurt and disconnect. Complete the worksheet and..
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Refuse to get hooked any longer -
Be aware of the “game” -
Be non reactive – in control of YOU -
Don’t fall into negative feelings -
Don’t fall into negative thinking
The “Basics of Charging Neutral…: sets the foundation for the Healing Marriage Matrix you will use in the Marriage Building Online Course.
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Checklists are extremely helpful. I use them a great deal.
This checklist will help you:
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Find and hold a vision for what is good/healing -
Be rooted in the present, rather than horrible past and fearful future -
Keep in “recovery thinking” rather than “crisis thinking” -
Use, value and tap into the unconscious
Use this checklist for 3 days and note what happens.
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Use this checklist for 3 days and note what happens.
Carolynn’s Manifesto
Carolynn sent me a scathing email. 🙂
She was mad at me and yet, I just love Carolynn.
You see, I helped her “Charge Neutral” and now her unfaithful husband is begging for her to take him back.
Dang.. she says.
Paste her “Manifesto” to your bedroom mirror.
Be reminded of what truly works.
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Charging Neutral: Case Studies
Sonny, Beth, Lisa, Carol, Natasha, Ruth, Mike, Diana, Chela and Stacy share their stories of Charging Neutral.
As well, I offer my responses. In Sonny’s case we carry on a fairly long and in-depth conversation.
You will find important chunks of your situation in one or more of their experiences.
Many say, “Give me a real life example!”
Here you are.
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40 Success and 7 Failure Stories
of using Charging Neutral
I add my comments to the “failure” stories and point out specific situations when another strategy might work better.
I want to stress that Charging Neutral is not the end all. It is merely the beginning. As I said before, Charging Neutral provides a great opportunity to get fast relief and quick results, but those results are temporary.
The old patterns and feelings will emerge. But with a bases of Charging Neutral you now have a process that guides you and is in reserve as you use different Tools to build a foundation of love.
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Here’s My Promise
I’m convinced, after tons of feedback, that you will find my Charging Neutral Lessons THE resources to start your Re(Building) process. You will receive in depth understanding about your relationship. This will happen:
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There will be moments when you feel the load lighten. -
You breathe easier. -
Your fears will subside -
Your world will look a little brighter. -
A spark of hope will arise from within. -
The fog will clear. -
Your mind, soul and spirit will shake off the paralysis. -
You will begin to understand and implement new words and actions which shake your spouse and demand their attention. -
You will begin to understand the patterns and specific themes of his affair and experiment with changing the rules of the relationship – to invite healing and transformation,
Imagine
If you felt like you were in control in a positive, no nonsense, yet accepting manner.
If he (or others) were able to press your buttons.
If you were able to say NO and have that NO respected.
You feeling, thinking and responding fearlessly, without rancor or bitterness.
No more game playing, only the freedom of authentic truth.
Critical Ebook on the Very Common Pursuing-Distancing Couples’ Dance
If you are like 80% of people, I’ve encountered in my 3-decade practice as a Marriage and Family Therapist and personal coach, you want to get him/her back. You want to save the marriage and your sanity.
Your heart, mind and soul is solidly focused on the broken relationship day and night. You cannot let it go.
And so, you follow conventional marital advice; suggest counseling, make personal changes (to be whom you thought s/he always wanted you to be,) try to talk about the problem and try to elicit feelings. In essence, you try to persuade, convince, plead, beg and manipulate your other to move closer.
It doesn’t work! If you pursue, your other will distance. The dance of pursuing and distancing increases in intensity and frequency, which brings you here.
This BONUS E-book offers an infographic which is a solution.
Read just a small sampling of what
Others Say
Well I have been using charging neutral since I got your book. And all I can say WOW just WOW!!!! My fiance has been all but crawling on his knees to be back with me. More updates will follow soon
A very useful tool and something that can be used all the time. The more you use it the less likely you’ll be to become heated in an argument and I believe the less likely you’ll be to ever have one.
After receiving a message from another woman my husband has has contact with I had to face him . I found charging neutral after this for 2 days received a better result in discussing what was going on.
Recently, my husband fell into a deep depression. He responded by blaming our marriage and me for his unhappiness, that was six months ago. That is when I decided to charge neutral. I stopped letting his behavior affect me. I responded in a loving way, but made sure that I was assertive and did not allow him to verbally abuse me. If he did treat me in a way that I felt was disrespectful, I would tell him that I understand he is unhappy and believes that I am the cause of this unhappiness, but I deserve to be treated with respect. All these things have supported my effort for him to get the help he needs and change his focus of unhappiness from me.
I will never forget how empowering Charging Neutral made me feel. When I told my husband he need not move out and find an apt but instead I would be leaving him and the house as soon as I could. I also wished him good luck and that he should go a head and be with her, have her children and be happy. I was calm and collected. At that moment in time I felt “invincible.” I still smile when I think back at that moment when I found my power, without any crying or raising my voice. The words just flew out of my mouth in a very peaceful way. It made me feel strong. I’ll never forget that feeling
Charging neutral was helpful in discussing productively conflict situations.
The Abrupt change puts everything on the table.
I was less intimidated by how I thought my husband might react.
Get Access to the Charging Neutral Lessons Now
- Use Charging Neutral to Calm Down and Charge
- Stop the Downward Spiral – Experience Success
- Experience your personal power and control
- Remove Triggers and Refuse to React – Act
- Discover Your Voice – Be Acknowledged and Hears
Precisely the Help I Needed.
This exercise was precisely the kind of help I have needed. The steps have also given me a better understand of how to “Charge Neutral.” I’ve intellectually acknowledged that charging neutral is be a good thing for me to be doing but have left defeated in being able to do it. The process in this module of identifying shifts to implement gives me a practical tool to work with.
Kathy
there is a Better Way
So many times I’ve wanted to yell, “I want a divorce!” but haven’t. Now I realized there is a better way to address the problems.
Sharon
