Wisdom You Can Trust, Wealth of Experience
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25,000 Client hours as Licensed MFT -
Proven, practical strategies and tools helping thousands online since 2000 -
35 years of accumulated wisdom and resources -
First and best selling e-book, “Break Free From the Affair” -
The 10 step Matrix Method
Quiet Your Mind Uncover the TRUTH
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Finally—Straight Talk and Practical Advice That Actually Helped
At last somebody who was giving practical advice, somebody who called ‘a spade, a spade’, somebody who, above all, never gave up on me and understood my dilemma and my hesitance to order and pay for the E-books over the internet. – Patricia L.
Who Is This Course For?
You just discovered an affair and your mind won’t stop racing.
You need concrete steps to reduce pain, protect yourself, and decide what comes next.
You prefer private, on-demand guidance you can listen to anywhere — no appointments, no judgment.
What You’ll Gain
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Emotional clarity — Know what’s normal, what’s not, and what to do next. -
Practical next steps — Scripts, boundaries, and documentation tips you can use today. -
Calm, portable support — Listen privately on your phone while you walk, drive, or sit with your thoughts. -
Better decisions — Reduce panic-driven choices and learn how to pause and choose intentionally. -
Faster stabilization — Quick coping practices to help you think clearly sooner. -
Respect for your pace — Guidance that honors your safety, dignity, and timeline.
This Is What You Receive In The Course
Top 10 Common Questions
People Ask About Infidelity
The Top 10 Questions
People Should Ask About Infidelity
You’re Not Alone—Here’s What Others Experienced
Having a voice and making distinctions are tremendously empowering concepts to explore. I didn’t even realize why I was so unhappy with myself and my marriage. It was like two empty people tearing each other apart.
– Rachel P.
I read this section twice, I really connected with the section describing the process of making finer and finer distinctions, I want this capacity in my life and how I relate to my partner and others. I feel excited to keep moving through the material.
– Kimberly F.
I have been trying to rebuild my marriage after infidelity broke it apart two years ago. I have been in therapy and applying myself to healing using various authors, programs, and therapists. I am at a point in the marriage where I felt that it had to move and go somewhere or it would consume me. I once again found myself at this site and it is immensely helpful, honest and hits you with the right language which, in turn, is refreshing from other therapies in which the truth and the reality of the situation is veiled and unverified. In contrast to the fluffy filling therapists often try to fill you without letting the true validation surface.
– Stephanie R.
So many times I’ve wanted to yell, “I want a divorce!” but haven’t. Now I realized there is a better way to address the problems.
– Laura B.
“Your writings and ebooks have not only saved my marriage, but also my life. My pain is still not over, as I discovered that my wife of 20 years has been having long term affairs on the side for 17 of these years, including the period over which we were having children. I read your books and emails over and over, and they helped tremendously to understand her problems as well as mine. It’s taken me a year and half to get myself together, but my new business is thriving and we are still together. And perhaps for the first time we are ‘really’ together.”
– Karen H.
“Your writings and ebooks have not only saved my marriage, but also my life. My pain is still not over, as I discovered that my wife of 20 years has been having long term affairs on the side for 17 of these years, including the period over which we were having children. I read your books and emails over and over, and they helped tremendously to understand her problems as well as mine. It’s taken me a year and half to get myself together, but my new business is thriving and we are still together. And perhaps for the first time we are ‘really’ together.”
– Karen H.
This exercise was precisely the kind of help I have needed. The steps have also given me a better understand of how to “Charge Neutral.” I’ve intellectually acknowledged that charging neutral is be a good thing for me to be doing but have felt defeated in being able to do it. The process in this module of identifying shifts to implement gives me a practical tool to work with.
– Sarah T.
Listen to Dr. Huizenga as he responds to Crucial Infidelity Questions:
- Is it a bigger problem when an affair happens early in a committed relationship or marriage compared to an affair that happens in a fairly longer marriage?
- List of dos and don’ts for a betrayed spouse.
- How does the betrayed spouse deal with an angry cheater?
- Should I force a decision?
- Why won’t the wayward spouse work on the marriage after the affair?
- Why is the need to know details sometimes powerful?
- Should the betrayed spouse expose the affair?
- What barriers does the cheating spouse have in healing the marriage after the affair?
- Once a cheater, always a cheater?
- How to rebuild the trust, especially when the other person continues to be coworker of the wayward spouse?
- How does one deal with flashbacks and nightmares?
- What are the dynamics of forgiveness?and more.
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