For individuals or couples in crisis or starting over. 42+

How to Move Past the Crazy Times of 42-52 To the Freedom of a Natural, Easy and Spontaneous Love

Training in the Love Stacking Matrix - the promise for the 2nd half of life

The Matrix

42-52 is CRAZY Time

All hell breaks loose anywhere from 42-52.

A person bumps into failures, disappointments, loss of virility, stress and strain. It hits them that pre 42 promises about life and relationships don’t measure up.

Marriages implode.

Infidelity.

Conflict.

Disconnect.

Illness.

Distress.

Divorce talk.

You are the sandwich generation; between teenagers in their psycho sexual development and parents in decline.

You were not prepared. In reality you were misled and deprived of accurate information.

You were taught and absorbed toxic assumptions about yourself, life, love and marriage.

And, perhaps you went to get help, but found the help wanting, mainly because the help itself was based on the same toxic assumptions about life, love and marriage.

How do I know?

Been there. Done that.

I worked with thousands of people in private practice and online and they share the pain of similar stories.

My marriage imploded as well during mid life.

I was compelled to move beyond conventional thinking and help. I wanted more than “cognitive behavioral” Change.

I wanted a deep healing. I wanted a new start.

In the past decade I discovered, refined, tested and used the Steps of the Love Stacking Matrix.

It is my constant companion and friend that erases the familiar what I call “non love” and replaces it with a Natural, Easy and Spontaneous Love.

Whenever I am “triggered” I call upon the LSM.

I will Train you in the Love Stacking Matrix.

It can be your ticket and tool to a new start, a new life grounded in a Natural, Easy and Spontaneous Love – on your command.

How Others Have Been Helped

This knowledge helped to save my marriage. Much grateful.

Violet

Straight Forward, Real and Doable

I’d like you to understand that your course has been more beneficial to me than any other. It is a straightforward, authentic, and achievable approach that has made a significant impact. I’ve completed the 27 days, and the results speak for themselves. I frequently revisit the material to reinforce my understanding, finding it to be an invaluable resource in gauging my progress.

Thank you so much. Your materials have been my savior. I have rediscovered myself and found my inner strength and will just be me, the one I used to be that somewhere along the line got lost.

Kind regards

Debra

Voice of Confidence, Assurance, and Guidance

Thank you for being a voice of confidence, assurance, and guidance in this quagmire. At last somebody who was giving practical advice, somebody who called ‘a spade, a spade’, somebody who, above all, never gave up on me and understood my dilemma and my hesitance to order and pay for the E-books over the internet.

Immensely Helpful, Honest and Hits you with the Right Language

For the past two years, I have dedicated myself to repairing my marriage, which infidelity shattered. I’ve actively sought therapy and engaged in various resources, including authors, programs, and therapists, to facilitate my healing process. Now in our relationship, I sensed the need for decisive progress, as I recognized that if there wasn’t a positive direction, the unresolved issues would become overwhelming. Once again, I discovered this site, and it is immensely helpful, honest, and uses language that resonates with me. This is a refreshing change from other therapies that don’t always uncover and validate the truth and reality of the situation. * In contrast to the fluffy filling therapists often try to fill you with without letting the true validation surface.

So many times, I’ve wanted to yell, “I want a divorce!” but haven’t. Now I realized there is a better way to address the problems.

Easy read. Well written. Calms the anxious mind.

Interesting to learn about marriage “myths” and wrong ideas. No wonder things weren’t getting better when I was going down the laundry list of fixing his complaints!

I Don’t Have to Work at it

The best part is I don’t have to work at it. There is a process and a system–it makes everything easier.

Your approach is unique. You have carved out quite a niche for yourself! Michelle.

Thanks again for your site because it helps put me back on the path of reality and truth and comforts me and hope. May God bless.

Carol

The love Stacking Matrix moves you step by intentional step to incremental experiences of love

For weeks, months and years you can flounder trying x, trying y, talking in generalities, going over the same territory over and over, always ending back in the cesspool of
pain, hurt and disconnect.

The Love Stacking Matrix Levels

Level 1 How to Achieve Immediate Success

You need immediate success. No more swirling. No more dead ends. No more disappointments and frustration. No more downward spiral.
You will learn specific behaviors to change to get the results you truly want.

Level 2 How to Achieve Calm and Clarity

You get nowhere being a raging bull in a china shop or frozen fearful doormat. You need to slow your heart rate down, unclench your teeth and take a deep breath. Easier said than done when it seems like your world is imploding or forever gone.

Calm and clarity emerge as you recalibrate your thinking (from the toxic assumptions you were taught) or fill your mind with accurate information. (You know more about how your cell phone works than how relationships work.)

Level 3 Break Through Barriers

You walk through life pre-42 on autopilot. You are largely unaware of your own barriers that hold you back, cause you anger and fear and result in you shooting yourself in the foot.

Post 42 is a time of becoming aware of (pain and loss is a great motivator) the barriers and transforming them. Individual training and guidance in the Love Stacking Matrix opens new worlds.

Level 4 Tap Into Your Innate Healing Process

If you are like me, you are prone to chase the next shiny new object. Something “out there” will be the silver bullet that turns everything around. Doesn’t happen.

Your hope lies within. I will train you in a 10 step practical process that reaches down and brings about your specific healing experience. I use it every day.

The Total Training Experience

Choose Your Track (Note the special track if infidelity is or was a crisis)

Ultimate Love Stacking Matrix Training Experience

Infidelity Recovery Track

Re(Building) Track

LSM Membership

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Infidelity Recovery Membership

Re(Building) Membership

Collage of courses

Re(Building) Membership

4 Half hour sessions with Dr. Huizenga

Collage of courses

4 half hour Training sessions with Dr. Huizenga

Office hours with Dr. Huizenga

Office Hours with Dr. Huizenga

Option for follow up sessions

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What You Will Experience in the Love Stacking Matrix Training

You will create a space for love, which does not mean “being close.”
You will live by a future vision of love, rather than controlled by past painful memories.
You will experience love and project it outward.
You will learn which behaviors to change; those that have the greatest chance of influencing your relationship.
You learn how to modify/change/transform/diminish your catastrophic thinking.
You will learn how to be aware of, identify, change, and transform self-talk.
You will objectively evaluate the status of your relationship and make informed decisions.
You will use the Love Stacking Matrix Worksheet and begin stacking love experiences.
You will know the key relationship killer and how to transform it.
You learn how to identify and change your marriage mood.
You will identify with exact clarity where you get stuck and how to move through it.
You will learn how marriages and relationships really work.
You will learn how your marriage heals itself.
You will learn how to feel emotionally safe with your spouse/partner.
You will create a version of love based on the three love laws.
You will develop an in-depth understanding of your spouse leading to acceptance and compassion.

Can work for you… even if…

Your spouse has checked out, either emotionally, physically or geographically.

One spouse always wants it more than the other. One is ALWAYS distancing. You discover you need not try to “win him back” or even “work on the relationship.” Doesn’t work. Change actions. Change thoughts. Heal the pain. Orient your life around the Love Laws. Then watch what happens! (BTW, IF your spouse IS on board, I strongly suggest you first do the lessons and learn the LSM method separately.)

You think you’ve tried it all, said it all.

No, you haven’t. You have merely dwelt in your limited world. (This is not a criticism of you. This is reality. ALL our worlds are small.) There is more love, peace and joy awaiting you than you can imagine. And there are limitless ways of getting there.

You think it’s too late.

Natural love is only available to those over 42! Love (in our culture) prior to 42 is based on a romanticized, sexualized attraction. Affairs are an attempt (that doesn’t work) to recapture that type of “love.” The confusion and letting go of mid-life opens the door to a radically mature love that far transcends what went before.

It’s Really Simple.

It all boils down to his: LOVE.
I’ve spent 25,000+ hours listening to people’s hurt and relationship pain. If you listen carefully, open to the hidden meaning, you discover an overwhelming desire and longing to love and be loved.
You want to FEEL accepted, validated, valued and acknowledged.
You want to EXPERIENCE and FEEL LOVE.

You Don’t Especially Want…

a self help book that describes loving concepts
therapy that dredges up the past hurt and steals your time and money
someone preaching to you about what you must do to love
to read about it, talk about it or play games to get it
to learn a new communication skill to pull love from your significant other
to learn a new technique that manipulates your spouse into saying the words you want to hear
a candlelight dinner that only calls attention to your inner emptiness
You just want LOVE!

I offer in-depth, practical, doable and effective TRAINING to help you let go of the past and welcome a Natural, Eady and Spontaneous love.

Ok. Let’s go for it!

I look forward to working with you.

Bob

P.S. Obviously, I have a limited offer. I can work only with so many at one time. Once I reach my threshold, I will take this offer off the table.

But, for now… let’s go!